“I don’t really feel like sex.”
“My sex drive is gone.”
“I have a low libido.”
“I don’t even think about sex.”
“I’m able to get through it.”
“I feel like my sex life is broken.”
“I might not even want to have sex—but if he wants sex and I give it to him then, yes, I was a good wife today.”
Your lack of sexual desire is starting to create trouble in your relationship. You are feeling disconnected from your lover. You aren’t spending as much time together anymore. The time you do spend together is spent mostly bickering about how much (or how little) you are having sex. You experience feelings of guilt. Your partner is beginning to feel frustrated because they are being rejected again and again and they are beginning to worry that you don’t find them attractive anymore.
Feeling the sting of constant rejection, they give up and stop initiating sex with you. It makes sense though, right? They don’t want to get denied again!
Meanwhile, you may start to feel increasingly guilty. And this leads to you feeling like they aren’t interested in you anymore.
Now you both are full of doubt and feeling insecure about your relationship.
Before you know it, you have become roommates instead of lovers. You have fallen into the dreaded, tragic category of having a sexless marriage.
You want to understand why you feel like this. You want answers. And most of all you want your sex drive back!
If you’ve experienced any of these feelings, I want you to know that you are not broken, and you are not alone.
I promise it doesn’t have to be like this.
I know you’ve probably tried all the usual suggestions to fix the problem…sexy lingerie, romantic dinners, scented candles, fancy massage oils, date nights, even sex toys, all in the hopes of magically feeling “excited” for sex, only to discover nothing has worked.
I bet you’ve tried talking it out on your own, too. Maybe you are talking about more sex, less sex, or different kinds of sex. Either way, I’m sure the conversation starts off hopeful and innocent enough, but slowly gets heated, and before you know it, you are fighting about sex. Not only are you not getting anywhere with your sex talk, but now you feel frustrated and want to pull away from your partner, creating distance between you both. This makes sense, since arguing about what goes down in the bedroom can affect your emotional and physical connection with your partner.
Maybe you’ve tried going to couples therapy in the hopes that all would be fixed in a few sessions, only to find that you leave therapy more frustrated than when you first walked in because you and your spouse spend the whole hour arguing.
You might have read books, articles, and blogs packed with lots of great information, they don’t get you the transformation you want. They do a fantastic job of telling you what to do, but they usually leave out the “how to do it” part.
Maybe you’ve purchased a “have better sex guide”. These can usually range from 10-100 pages and are usually focused on tips and tricks (how to give a better blowjob, fingering techniques, how to give a hand job, etc.). Just like the articles and blogs, they give you lots of
information and tell you what to do, and some even tell you how, but you’ve got to read through all the pages, and follow the directions in order to get the technique right. And you have to make sure your partner takes the time to read through all the pages of the guide as well, so they know what kind of trick is about to happen. I don’t know about you, but I don’t find it very sexy to keep a user manual handy during sexual play, so you can reference it and flip through the pages to make sure you are doing each step.
You’ve probably even talked to your friends about your sexual frustrations, only to find out that they have the same problems! Although it’s great to have these wonderful sounding boards to know you’re not alone in your worries, struggles, and frustrations, you still don’t walk away with a clear solution. Not to mention the fact that your partner may not like that you’ve shared the details of your intimate moments together with your circle of friends.
Even though some of these things have had minor improvements, they haven’t solved your problem. You’re still frustrated and confused, feeling like you are trying everything, but nothing is helping get your desire back.
And I bet you are pursuing this ALL ALONE. Although your caring partner is there for you, they are just as frustrated and confused as you are! It can feel very lonely to work through this on your own.
It’s no wonder these things haven’t worked for you in the past. You were never given an opportunity to learn and understand your sexual self.
If you are like most women, the sexual education you received at school, home, or church was probably either based in fear, based in shame,
focused on abstinence only, or was completely omitted from your education all together. Unfortunately the deck has been stacked against you your entire life. You were never given a positive and pleasure based sex education, which is the key to understanding your sexual self, your sexual desire, and to having a great love life.
The problem is no matter how much action you take, none of it will give you the complete satisfaction of conquering your low desire because you are following tips and tricks, using your current mindset, and having to put all the pieces together yourself.
It’s not your fault! You’re doing the best you can with what you have. You just haven’t been given the right tools to succeed. You haven’t been given the treatment plan….yet.
I created this program with you in mind. It’s all about getting you the kind of relationship you want with your partner and with yourself. There’s no shame in feeling disconnected or lacking sexual desire, if today you start with an actual roadmap that will get you there.
I’ve been where you are…
Not too long ago, I was sitting in my bed in the middle of the night unable to sleep because I thought something was wrong with me. I had completely lost my desire for sex. And my marriage was paying the price. Not only had my desire for sex gone missing, I felt completely disconnected from my husband. I felt like we didn’t know each other anymore. It was like we were living separate lives under the same roof. The times we did have sex felt like we were doing it out of obligation, or to check off a box that symbolized yep, we had sex this week – done. And when the topic of sex came up in conversation, you can bet it turned heated very quickly. We spent more time arguing about sex, than having sex!
Fortunately, I was able to reconnect with my sexual self and rediscover my sexual desire, and guess what? It totally changed the way I lived life. I found the confidence to express my desires, explore ways to enhance my capacity for pleasure, found a renewed satisfaction in my marriage, and most of all, I powerfully stepped into my sexual power as a woman.
“I never thought sex coaching would be something I would consider. But after working with Jen, she opened my mind and helped me feel a deep sense of freedom. I highly recommend her!“
Rebeca L.
“I had no idea how much I was standing in my own way and choosing to accept that I just wasn’t capable of pleasure. What Jen taught me goes beyond pleasure in the bedroom, it’s leaked in to my entire life and I feel confident being a woman.“
Ashley H.
Maybe you’re wondering…
Is it even possible to get my sex drive back?
Am I normal for having such a low, or no, sex drive?
Why did I enjoy sex in the beginning, and now I never seem to want it?
Whenever I think about sex, I get stressed out, how can I get out of my head?
Here’s the truth…
It doesn’t matter if your sex drive has been gone for a few months or a few years, I will help you get it back using my 12-week proven treatment plan called the
12-week guided online video curriculum
The 12-week experience is broken out into 6 phases. The phases are delivered at a pace of one every two weeks. Each phase contains 3-5 video lessons that will provide you with the training for the program. This is where the education begins! You will leave each lesson feeling enlightened by the new discoveries you uncover about yourself.
Workbooks for each phase
Each phase contains its own accompanying workbook (6 workbooks in total) so you will have a place to work through the program and stay organized as you refine your knowledge and understanding of your sexual self. The real value is that you will have personal workbooks to track your progress and refer back to even after your training is over.
At home activities for every lesson
Once you have been equipped with the education from the training videos, it’s time to take ACTION.
I believe that knowledge turns into power when you ACT on it. That’s why every lesson has an accompanying at-home activity for you to do. These activities are meant to help you put your new education into practice. This is also where all the FUN happens.
I truly believe that the at-home activities are where the biggest shifts are seen and felt. Implementing the training you received from the curriculum is what’s going to make a lasting impact on your love life.
Case Studies
Want to see how other women, just like you, are putting their new education to work for them? The case studies provided with each module will give you real life examples of women who are putting their new knowledge into practice as they begin to transform their lives.
6 One-on-one Private Coaching Sessions
This is the gem of the program! You will thrive in 6 private one-on-one coaching sessions designed to take a deeper look into the 6 phases. Your coaching sessions will be tailored to your specific needs. The real value is you will have a safe space to talk through sensitive issues and finally get the right answers and solutions to the things that you are struggling with. Although sex is something that is difficult to ignore because it seems to be everywhere in our culture – movies, magazines, fashion,
Onboarding call
We will have an onboarding call as soon as you sign up for the Rediscovering Desire Protocol, which includes a personal orientation of the RDP. The real value is that you’ll have peace of mind knowing that you have everything you need at your fingertips to be set up for success.
This is a private, one-on-one call where you will have an opportunity to explain exactly what your concerns and goals are. Before the call, you will fill out an intake form. This form helps me understand exactly where you are now and where you’d like to be. The more I can learn about your challenges and concerns, the better I will be able to coach you towards success.
Imagine how good your relationship would feel if you went from saying “not tonight, honey”, to “one more time, honey!”
Imagine sliding under the sheets together anticipating your partner’s touch
Imagine thinking about your sex life and smiling
Imagine sex being part of your regular routine again, not just something you gift on birthdays, anniversaries, and special occasions.
Imagine feeling sexually confident, knowing what turns you on and knowing exactly how to ask for it
Imagine being friends with your body, releasing and anxiety and shame you have around it, so that you can fully experience pleasure
Imagine feeling deeply connected to your partner
“I never thought sex coaching would be something I would consider. But after working with Jen, she opened my mind and helped me feel a deep sense of freedom. I highly recommend her!“
Rebeca L.
“I had no idea how much I was standing in my own way and choosing to accept that I just wasn’t capable of pleasure. What Jen taught me goes beyond pleasure in the bedroom, it’s leaked in to my entire life and I feel confident being a woman.“
Ashley H.
Awesome, I can’t wait to see you inside!
To recap, with the Rediscovering Desire Protocol, you’ll get:
When I break it down, all of that is worth $5,600!
But for you to own your sexual desire – truly understand it – and have the skills necessary to nurture it for the rest of your life – you can enroll today for just $2997!
Recently, I was talking to someone who pays $1,000/month to go to couple’s therapy. She has to drag her husband there each week and they spend most of their session arguing. They’ve been going for over 6 months now!! There is no framework, no strategy, no training, and no action plan laid out. So, ultimately, she is spending a lot of money to argue with her partner in front of someone else and needless to say, she still doesn’t have her sex drive back!
And believe it or not, the quality of your sex life can positively impact your income. Did you know that a 2013 study associated more frequent sex with higher income rates?
Yep! The study referenced how having a healthy sex life checks off many boxes leading to fulfillment of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Scoring high on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is directly linked to securing and maintaining high-wage income and making smarter financial decisions. People who have these needs met are happier, more fulfilled, and are more successful at work. The more successful you are in your career, the better chance you have for higher-income jobs or salary bumps.
This is something you can set in motion TODAY!
Fantastic question! I also want to feel confident about the people I work with.
First of all, I’ve been where you are. Not too long ago, I was frustrated in marriage, and feeling disconnected, not only from my husband, but from myself. I had no desire to be sexual and it was hurting my relationship. I didn’t feel like myself and I knew I had to figure it out, so I could start living the life I was meant to live!
My way of figuring it out was to take a deep dive into the world of sexology. I learned anything and everything I could about the world of sex. I was my very own case study; learning, applying, and taking notes about what worked and what didn’t. Needless to say, my husband and I had quite a few fun and memorable experiences along the way, but what I am most proud of is that I was able to reclaim my sexual desire and reconnect with my husband. I solved my own problem!
I became a certified sexologist through the International Institute of Clinical Sexology. While there, I also earned a Kink Conscious Certification as well. I went on to earn my certification as a sex coach from Sex Coach U, led by Dr. Patti Britton.
After having such success with my own experience, and with working with other women to help them transform their love lives, I created a proven treatment plan specifically designed to help women rediscover their sexual desire. It’s a step-by-step process, outlined for you to get results. You can think of it like a road map.
Now, I know that women need education about sex, since very few people ever get a solid, pleasure-based sex education, but I also know that they need someone to guide them along their journey. Going it alone is, well, lonely. And if I’m being honest, if you were able to solve this problem on your own, you wouldn’t be here now. That’s why I will be your coach every step of the way. I am here to guide and support you throughout the entire process. I’ll be your driving buddy as you follow the road map to rediscovering your desire.
You will finally overcome your low sex drive, reconnect with your partner, and feel energized with your new-found sexual awakening…and I will be with you every step of the way.
Great question!
I offer 6 one-on-one coaching calls and what that means to you is your coaching sessions will be tailored to your specific needs. The real value is you will have a safe space to talk through sensitive issues and finally get solutions to the things that you are struggling with. Although sex is something that is difficult to ignore because it seems to be everywhere in our culture – movies, magazines, fashion, music, TV – talking about sex can be intimidating for most women. But the truth is that talking about sex creates better sexual experiences, which lead to a deeper connection with your partner. Having customizable, private 1-1 coaching sessions with a professional provides you with the space you need to talk about whatever you decide – your deepest desires, secret fantasies, buried pain, or boundless potential.
Each session is 60 minutes long and takes place via zoom.
During your coaching sessions we will review anything that came up for you during your bi-weekly training. I will also answer any questions and help you troubleshoot any issues that may have come up during your at-home assignments. We will also celebrate your wins and “aha” moments!!
Coaching sessions are booked through this link. They can be booked 14 days in advance. All unused coaching sessions expire at the end of your 12-week program. If you need to cancel a scheduled coaching session, please do so 24 hours in advance.
I get it, I also make every effort to maximize my time!
That’s exactly why I designed the training to be one-part self-paced and one-part live learning with your one-on-one private coaching session.
The bi-weekly video lessons are about an hour long and they can be listened to on the go…during your evening walk, on your morning commute, or while you are making dinner.
Your one-on-one coaching sessions are 60 minutes and are scheduled at your convenience.
Your at-home activities can range anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours. It depends on what the activity is, and how much time you are willing to designate to it. But I will tell you this – putting in time for your at-home activities is a GAME CHANGER. This is where you get the opportunity to discover so much about yourself!
The ones who set aside this time and make the commitment are the ones who experience the biggest shifts.
You can even think about it like this: You’ll replace the time you’re spending worrying about your relationship, or feeling concerned that something is wrong with you, or wondering about the future of your marriage, with spending time enjoying your partner, having pleasurable experiences together, and making lots of special memories.
And let’s be honest, if you have some extra time to scroll through Instagram, you can probably spare a few minutes a day to work on boosting your sexual desire, igniting a spark into your relationship, and reconnecting with your partner.
That sounds worth it to me!
I totally get it!
It’s natural (and completely okay!) to feel a bit icky when it comes to talking about sex. The conversations can feel awkward and embarrassing.
Here’s the thing…It’s uncomfortable because no one has shown us how to do it well. In fact, most of us have never been encouraged to talk about sex. On the contrary, most of us have a lot of shame talking about sex. We’ve been made to feel that it’s something we should do in private, and certainly not talk about outside of the bedroom, especially to people we don’t know for fear of judgment, shame and exclusion.
If this resonates with you, then RUN (don’t walk) to enroll in the Rediscovering Desire Protocol. This program is for YOU!
Once you start to unlearn your sex negative shame beliefs, talking about sex will start to feel more comfortable. And remember, it doesn’t necessarily have to feel natural or carefree to have a good, meaningful conversation.
Also, I am a certified sex coach and what that means to you is you will be working with a trained professional. The real value is that you will feel safe to talk about the most intimate parts of your life. I had a client tell me that as a result of having a judgment free place to talk about her sexual struggles, she was able to share a whole range of thoughts, feelings, and experiences that she wasn’t able to tell anyone before. Being vulnerable helped her discover how courageous she was, which in turn helped her foster a better connection with her husband. She feels more close to him now, than she has at any time in her marriage. And, feeling safe when you are sharing the most intimate parts of your life is important to you, right?
This is a great question!
Historically, women haven’t been encouraged to explore pleasure, or their sexuality, in an open and healthy way. Typically, men are the more confident ones when it comes to conversations about pleasure, which isn’t surprising since they’ve been taught about pleasure through the media, and society as a whole, for their entire lives, leaving female pleasure to be rarely acknowledged.
In fact, the expression of female pleasure or sexual exploration is often criticized, or scandalized, which I consider disrespectful.
I believe that female pleasure is integral to female empowerment. When a woman is allowed to explore her desires and embrace the complexity of sexual pleasure in an environment that is welcoming, empowering and free from judgment, she experiences a huge boost in her confidence, and at the same time, a more equal relationship with men.
Knowing and owning female pleasure and sensuality can be life-changing. It’s one of the true gifts of being a woman. Our capacity to experience it is innate, universal and human – and it’s never too late to start exploring its extraordinary possibilities.
I believe that pleasure and sexual fulfillment shouldn’t be regarded as luxuries and that more women need to regard their own sexual satisfaction as a necessity.
So, I focus on women because I want to help women experience the self-acceptance, the sense of fulfillment, the confidence, and the improved health that comes with a proper, pleasure-based sex education.
Unlike some myths suggest, sex isn’t just for the young. Many seniors still enjoy their sexuality into their 80’s and beyond. A healthy sex life is both fulfilling and good for other parts of your life too, such as your physical health and self-esteem.
It doesn’t matter if you are 29 or 89, age is just a number! Sure, aging can cause a dip in desire, but it’s possible to increase your sex drive. As long as you are willing and able to put in the energy, and you have a REAL desire to recover your libido, it is totally possible for you.
I get it!
Being with the same partner for a long time can feel comfortable and safe. But the truth is desire and sex don’t need to decrease in long-term relationships. Plenty of people in long-term relationships have super-hot, wonderfully satisfying sex lives years and years into their relationships. In fact, the longer you know each other, the more comfortable you’ll become with exploring NEW sexual experiences together. You and your partner can create whatever type of sex life you want, as long as you’re both committed to making it happen.
Having a happy, healthy sex life doesn’t have an expiration date!
Although it is completely normal for your sex drive to fluctuate over time and for various reasons, understanding your sexual desire isn’t that simple. Getting your desire back isn’t like pushing a button; it’s comprehensive work but it’s work that is well worth it.
The Rediscovering Desire Protocol is designed to help you understand your sex drive, increase it, and then maintain it. You’ll leave the program with the foundation you need for nurturing your sexual desire for the rest of your life, not just tips and tricks meant to offer a quick fix.
The Rediscovering Desire Protocol is for women experiencing low sexual desire, not for couples. However, many of the at-home activities are intended to do with a partner. Whether you do this right from the beginning, or a few weeks or months into the program is, of course, completely up to you.
Book a FREE call with me. Here’s how:
1. Click HERE to book your FREE call with me
2. Fill out a short questionnaire
3. Show up for your FREE call to discuss how we can work together to help you get your desire back!
I am so confident in the Rediscovering Desire Protocol, that I offer a satisfaction guarantee. I am not satisfied, unless you are satisfied. That’s why, if you have completed all the training videos, done the activities/at-home assignments, and attended your one-on-one coaching calls and you are not satisfied by the start of Phase 3 (the 6th week), simply send an email to jen@thejenlopez.com and I will provide you with a full refund. It’s as simple as that.
Ok, so now you have TWO choices….
2. You can take the next 12 weeks to focus deeply on your relationship and your sexuality. What that means for you is that you will finally feel desire for sex again, and not just any old sex, fun, pleasurable sex that fosters intimacy and connection with your lover. The real value is that you will ignite a spark back into your relationship. You will feel the burning sensation of hot passion and excitement you felt in the beginning of your relationship.